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It’s unfortunate another sister is lost to suicide. I also feel for the parents it’s hard to lose a child, and their religious poisoning or views told them in their mind they were doing the right thing for their child. However they weren’t doing the right thing for the happiness of their child. This unfortunately is not rare in the transgender community, this happens a lot from all age ranges and races. Most do not know this due to there is not a lot of media picked up about transgender deaths or even our murders. What I will say is I am glad Leelah’s death wasn’t in vain or brushed under the carpet. It’s making real impact in the media and social sites. Even making an impact with celebrities. I was actually shocked when I saw a tweet from Kim Kardashian saying what she said on Leelah and transgender people. Yes I know right it’s Kim Kardashian, but things like this are powerful due to it coming from someone many people idolize and follow. She was the number one searched person in 2014, and rather we like it or not she influences people.
Then I recently came across a clip of “The Talk” talking on transgender teen suicide. What Aisha Tyler started with on being transgender is not a phase, to Sara Gilbert tearing up and asking the parents why couldn’t they deal with the loss of their “son” rather than a dead child, to even Sheryl who comes off rough around the edges speaking to the Christians it was one of the most powerful tv moments I have seen in a long time for the transgender community! It made me tear up and made me feel something.
The clip from the talk:
I know, I know you are probably saying if you are reading this as a transgender person that’s the most powerful moment you have seen on transgender people in a long time. You are probably pointing out other moments in your head especially when it comes to Laverne and others. Don’t get me wrong I love that Laverne Cox, Janet Mock, Geena Rocero, and many other trans-women are getting a voice to speak their truths and educate mainstream society through the media. I do not want to take away from that. I do feel it’s powerful, but I feel like their voices resonate or provide more powerful meaning for us as trans-people. Which is why so many girls that are models that are making it mainstream are role models and are expected by us to be more than models and to be put in the place as an “advocate” due to just being transgender. Even if they are not the best public speakers or come off the best at all times. Please do not think for one minute I want to take away from any of this success or power. All of these steps matter! As a step-mother though and being a young transitioner with a mother who went through these same things I have to admit I am even happier about this TV moment where it’s CIS Mom’s talking to other mom’s about being transgender and how it’s not a phase and why to love your child. People like Jazz’s mother are influencing other mothers by her parenting a transgender child with love and respect. Debi Jackson who recently made headlines for her stand for her transgender daughter AJ. I will leave clips below of both of these women. These examples resonate to me more more as a step-parent and as a trans-woman to my core, due to it reminded me of my mother when she stood up to El Paso High School (El Paso Illinois not Texas) and others when I transitioned at 12. They told her the same thing you really wanted a girl so you molded her (me) into this. I honestly believe moments like these are more powerful to CIS people due to CIS people hear other CIS people more than they do a transgender person preaching their truth. When you have Mom’s or parents standing by their child! Not scared of society telling them they are wrong, this helps other parents understand and hopefully move towards this same bravery.
Documentary on Jazz and her parents
See we as transgender people attack religion, society, and people in general who don’t understand us. We are moving forward slowly but surely everyday! Society and religious teachings have done much to teach that being homosexual or trans is an abomination. If we don’t live up to the status quo. If you aren’t “manly enough” you must be gay. If you aren’t feminine enough for society you must be a lesbian. If you don’t get married, go to church, or bare children you are “Unamerican” or “WEIRD”. This posturing has gone on for years and years and years. It’s hard to unlearn this in just a few years. The good news is more people are becoming more liberal with their views on homosexuality and even being transgendered. Churches are even beginning to accept the LGBT as a whole. Not just ones with gay pastors or a predominately gay congregations. You must feel sorry for these people who are striving to fit into the status quo. When many of them aren’t living their truths or living the way they really would want due to the societies pressure and posturing. They have been molded into the way they think the same way their parents before them and their parents before them were molded. Just as many of us were molded to think the same way. To be honest many transgender people hold dear to society. Want to blend in and don’t want to be an outsider. That’s okay, but remember it’s that society that holds us back!
I try to tell people this all the time. All of our thoughts on religion, what gender is, and even what being a proper citizen is has come from being told or taught by people that were taught or conditioned by another. It’s very the Matrix in a way. I usually feel the sorriest for men though. Why do think the number one question trans-attracted men ask is are they gay for liking us? It’s due to conditioning from their fathers on what being a man is. A child doesn’t know the difference between a boy and girl. We tell them what being a boy is or what being a girl is. Like when I have seen little boys playing with their sisters toys not realizing it’s a girl toy till they are reprimanded by their father that they are playing with girl toys and it’s wrong. Just like if a man doesn’t like sports, has way too good of hygiene, isn’t out there filling his wild oats, doesn’t love strip clubs or playboy, and not scratching his balls he must be gay in many people’s views. Just like if a girl doesn’t wear make up, loves sports and playing it, wears mostly tom boy/gender neutral clothing we as a society just assume she must be a lesbian. Which is just not true! How you dress and even how you come off personality wise doesn’t necessary tell a persons sexuality. Just like there are many transgender women who prefer other women or other trans-women. They are not into men, but due to us living our lives as women everyone just assumes we are all into men. Trust men when I say this many of these trans-women would be disgusted if a man hit on them or had to have sex with one.
This is why I posted what Kim said we must learn acceptance! We must learn to accept each other for people and not people who live by the status quo! Parents my words to you are stop conditioning your child and let them grow into who they want to be! Love your child with the pure eyes of love! Just because they are playing with a girl toy doesn’t mean they are GAY or even TRANSGENDER! Most trans-children like myself will come to you and outright say it. I didn’t even know I wasn’t a girl till I was six years old when I took a bath with my girl cousin and noticed we had different downstairs. I was literally so upset and screamed my head off when my mom told me the reason our parts were different than my cousins! Like Aisha said on The Talk it is not a phase and no one is molded me to believe this as a child. You just know! I always say it takes no effort on my part to know I’m a woman, the effort comes when others tell me what I am not!
My only hope is we have more and more tv moments like these. More and more parents of transgender children coming forward! More allies speaking up or even trans-attracted men speaking up for the trans-women they love! Lets break the status quo ceiling! Lets start accepting people for who they are! So we have a happier and more productive society as a whole!
Lots of Love and Luck,